Your body isn’t a project to manage, it’s your compass
Learn to read its signals and step into your full power, presence, and pleasure
It’s complicated
Getting curious about what your body wants can feel like an impossible luxury.
Maybe you're worried about making ends meet and can't afford to slow down.
Maybe you've internalized the belief that productivity equals worthiness—that rest and pleasure are only for people who've "earned" them.
Maybe you've absorbed the message that only certain bodies are acceptable, disciplined, attractive, or healthy—and yours doesn't make the cut.
Maybe you feel trapped by expectations of how you "should" be. You're exhausted from performing a version of yourself that sort of fits in, even when it doesn't feel true.
I'm not here to pretend I can fix everything stacked against us. But I do believe we often have more choices than we might think if we can slow down enough to notice them and reclaim the territory inside our own skin.
Your body already knows what you want. If you learn to listen, you can restore trust with yourself, advocate for your needs, foster deeper connections, and live more freely.
What we do together
I help people who feel disconnected from their desires ask for what they want, voice their limits, and explore new ways of nourishing and enjoying their bodies.
Sessions are 1 hour long and available online. In-person sessions in Fort Collins, Colorado coming soon.
Body Basics
Learn to:
Identify your physical sensations and what they mean
Befriend your nervous system with practices to move from chaos to calm
Notice what yes/no/maybe feel like in your body
Find where your limits are
Connect with your wants and desires, and
Communicate all of the above
So you can make agreements that work for everyone – and leave resentment at the door.
Is it hot in here, or is it just the idea of personal autonomy?
Those "body basics" skills are great for life - and essential for pleasure.
Think about it:
If you're used to gritting your teeth to power through the caustic lights and sounds of the grocery store, or holding back on what you want for dinner just in case your partner wants something different, how well do you communicate discomfort or desire in the bedroom?
Eroticism and Pleasure
You'll learn the same skills as Body Basics, but in more erotic and pleasure-focused contexts.
We might explore:
Building a sense of safety in your body so arousal has room to show up—and understanding your unique conditions for desire
Navigating partner differences in desire, arousal patterns, or intimacy needs with curiosity instead of conflict
Identifying your sexual style, core turn-ons, and the beliefs or shame that might be blocking you
Working with common sexual challenges like performance anxiety, arousal difficulties, or pain through a lens of nervous system regulation and self-compassion
Deepening connection and expanding your erotic capacity through embodied practices
I meet people and partners where they are.
Embodiment
choice and
pleasure
don't have to be sexual at all. Whether you're asexual, kinky, polyamorous, monogamous, or still figuring it out - we explore how you want to grow, not scripts of what sex 'should' look like.
Does this sound familiar?
This work can benefit anyone who wants to reconnect with their body and desires. I’m especially drawn to work with clients who resonate with elements of my own embodiment journey, such as:
Nerdy, always-in-your-head types who can explain complex concepts but struggle to name their feelings
Highly sensitive folks who notice everything (textures, sounds, emotional undercurrents) to the point of overwhelm
Anyone who's never quite fit the mold and has spent so much energy trying to fit in that they've lost track of what actually feels good
Anyone reading this page who notices their body leaning in with curiosity or an intuitive pull to this work
Sound like you? Let’s talk.
Why I do this work
Hi, I’m James (he/him)
I spent most of my life living from the neck up: straight-A student, mild-mannered IT worker, everything seemingly in place. Except for the persistent depression, anxiety, and overwhelm that kept me isolated, numbed out, and disconnected from pleasure.
Talk therapy helped me notice limiting patterns, but it wasn't until I started learning about body awareness that I could identify what actually felt bad. The squeak of my bedframe that made me never want to roll over. Tight waistbands I'd willed myself to ignore. The way I sort of hated every outfit, even when they looked perfectly acceptable on paper. The way I felt like no one ever really saw me, like I was performing an uncanny version of myself all the time.
I didn't want to admit these were problems. They seemed like small potatoes or signs of weakness.
But when I started listening to my body's Nos, I didn't feel weak. I gained trust in myself and clarity on my Yeses. I stopped rationalizing away my neurodivergence and started honoring my sensory needs. I stopped willing myself to feel good in women's clothes and started exploring what made my body light up: men's basics, short hair, and a gender transition that helped me finally recognize myself in the mirror. I stopped talking myself out of a career in sexual wellness and started training in somatic sex coaching and embodied consent—skills that matter in the bedroom and everywhere else.
Learning to listen to my body has made me feel more alive and more free than ever. I want that for you too.